I’m not saying the things I mention will cure your depression, I’m not a doctor and depression is never that simple. I’m not even saying these things will work for everyone. Everybody works differently. I’m just suggesting ways to make living with it just that little bit easier for you, and hopefully, if what i do suggest doesn’t work, you can come up with something that will by using my examples. It’s important to remember that you are not your depression. You are you, the depression is just an unwanted roommate that only your mind can get rid of. So, to live alongside this unwanted roomie of yours until they disappear for good you should find and do things that ease the experience.
One way of doing this is finding your vice. No, i don’t mean smoking, alcohol, or drugs. With a fragile mind these can lead you down a dark path and we really don’t want that. Also, as easy as it is for me to say it, please please please avoid self harming. This isn’t a vice. It’s a way of punishing yourself when you have no reason to. I know, I’ve been there. Having so many emotions bottled up that that’s the only way you can think of expressing them, or not being able to feel at all and harming yourself is the one way you can feel something. But this isn’t living with it, or escaping it. It’s giving the depression more power over yourself than you have. You are strong, you are caring and you can get through this. Your body is a temple, don’t destroy it. Worship it.
For me, my vice is listening to music, in headphones, in my own company. It’s one of the very few occasions that I feel fully and completely happy. I can’t even begin to explain how important music is to me and how so many bands have helped me through the worst times of my life. I also like to draw, having my mind set on just completing the picture is often enough to keep it of the numbing thoughts. Unfortunately though, it requires motivation and time and I often have one without the other. So finding a hobby that you enjoy will really help, it could be walking, hiking, swimming, doing some photography in your spare time, blogging like me, or something artsy. Whatever suits you best but the worst thing for you to do when you have free time to sit around doing nothing, as much as everyone needs to relax from time to time, sitting with just your thoughts isn’t good for anyone.
Another idea would be to see friends as often as possible, don’t push people away, don’t distance yourself. They’ll be there when you need them and having a good time is more than enough to keep your mind off of other things. Plus, knowing they are enjoying your company makes you feel wanted and confident and just overall happy.
Now the boring but vital part. If your physical health begins to drop then your mental health will just follow, keep physically healthy and trust me it’ll make a difference. You’ll feel less tired, run down and weak just by making sure you’re well rested. I’m not saying loads of sleep will make you feel completely better but it will stop you feeling worse as a result of tiredness and you’ll have the energy to be able to deal with overwhelming feelings that could happen through out the day. Eating healthy and being more psychically active will help you feel confident in yourself, happy from the endorphins you’ll realise and you’ll feel accomplished from sticking to something. The activity doesn’t have to be a major sport and you don’t have to cut everything out of your diet, just a gentle activity like a small jog, a walk or yoga will do and no eating quite as much junk as you usually would. Whatever you do you should make sure you choose something you enjoy so that you are more likely to stick to it, there’s no point in choosing something you don’t enjoy and forcing your self to do it. Lastly, make sure you LOOK AFTER YOURSELF, this includes all the simple tasks, getting out of bed, showering and keeping up your personal hygiene, staying hydrated, sleeping at good times, eating, staying motivated, these small tasks can improve your mood unexpected amounts.
Sorry for the long post but i really hope these posts are giving at least one person some help. As always i’m always available to talk to about anything, even if you just want me to listen. My Twitter; @_omgsxph.
P.s There’s this really cute self care App called Aloe Bud and it lets you choose tasks that you want to make sure you do and set reminders for you to do them. It’s helped me a lot and i’ve only had it 3 days! Would definitely recommend 😀
Sincerely, S x