Let’s Talk: Toxic Relationships

I know I said once a week I’d do these “lets talks” but I finally have a day off and time to write one so I thought why not!

Toxic relationships are so common which breaks my heart in all honesty. Don’t be fooled and think that they’re just in romantic relationships either, is just as possible to have a toxic friendship and you need to be able to know when you’re in one so you can get out of it.

These types of relationships can be the starter of mental illnesses like depression, borderline personality disorder and anxiety so it’s important to get yourself out and cut the toxicity out of your life before your mental state deteriorates.

Please note that even though I am and will be talking from a female perspective in a heterosexual relationship, both men and women can be victims of it and they can happen in all types of relationships.

I’m going to talk about the signs that you’re in a TR but also the positives of getting out.

Do they make you feel guilty about innocent things? Such as wearing certain clothing and spending time with other friends? This is NOT ok. Do you find yourself apologising for having feelings because they upset you yet made you look like the bad guy? NOT ok. Do you feel like you’re isolated, spending time with only them yet they can do whatever they want, see whoever they want? NOT OK. I spent a lot of time apologising because I was told i should “hide my feelings because it might upset that person” but that’s not okay. It drove me into a self harming state where I was then told i was “pathetic”. Crying in front of people meant that I was “attention seeking”. WRONG. A lot of this is control and it’s 100% not ok.

You need to be able to voice you concerns, your feelings, anything. If you can’t do so without feeling bad or without being belittled then that’s not a healthy relationship. Healthy relationships include communication, and being able to talk to each other without an issue and coming to understandings. In a friendship, if you feel your friend is being out of line you should be able to say so without it being turned round back onto you. Same in a relationship and your s/o should care enough for you to do this.

Thankfully I have not experienced a physically toxic relationship but there are plenty around. If you do not feel safe with that person then you need to find your escape. I know sometimes it can be scary but you need to find someone to reach out to and they will help. I also understand that sometimes in a relationship that is psychologically unhealthy it is hard to walk away because you feel like you need someone and they always know just the right thing to say to make you stay. Trust me, you don’t need them. You feel like if you leave you’ll feel alone and you’re not prepared to feel like that. You know that when the times are bad they’re awful but when they’re good, they’re amazing and that’s what you hold onto but you need to think more about the negative side because you need to put yourself first. Being alone and feeling alone can be horrible yes but once you push through that stage (and you will because you’re strong) you will feel so much better. You’ll start to love yourself when you didn’t before because of how little they made you feel. You’ll find happiness in yourself and then you can, not find happiness in someone else , but share your happiness with someone else. You need to stop the want and need to repair the relationship and accept that it’s not good for you, always put yourself and your mental state first.

Another sign is fighting, yes of course every kind of relationships has its quarrels but when it gets to the point where it’s constant and about the tiniest things, that’s when it’s abnormal. When you feel like everything you do causes an argument because it’s “not okay” that’s a problem. Walk away. The best thing for you to do is walk away, no matter how hard.

The most obvious one is that you’re miserable, all the time. You’ll pretend like your relationship is going amazing to other people but behind closed walls you’re down, sad, walking on eggshells to avoid another argument. Sometimes you’ll be happy because you’ll have that one good day that’s amazing but then it’s back to the same routine.

No one is worth wrecking your mental state over. No matter how much you love them or think you love them, you need to cut ties to any negativity to help you live your best life. If they cared the same way they wouldn’t treat you the way they do. It’s the actions of people that show how they feel, remember that.

Please put yourself first, if you need help please seek it, there’s so many people that will help if you reach out. I’m here to talk to anyone too.

Thank you

S x

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How to relax after a long/hard day

Hello my lovelies! Hope you’re all having a fab week! Today’s post is about relaxing after a long or hard day. Everyone needs to relax every now and then so here are 5 ways you can do just that!

  1. I’ll start of with how i relax, I’ll usually come home put on some comfy chilling clothes and make a cup of tea. Especially in the winter months, a hot cup of tea and comfy clothes is a nice way to just relax in the evenings. I also light a scented candles because candles make me feel more relaxed and the smell are really nice too.
  2. Have a warm/hot shower or bath, take your time and then get into comfort clothes and take a nap or just relax in bed or on the sofa.
  3. Sit down for the evening and watch your favourite show or movie, either by yourself or with your friend/partner. Seems simple but it is a really good way to unwind.
  4. Colouring, you’ve probably all seen those adult colouring books that everyone loves, right? They are actually really good stress relievers. I often colour in the evenings and it really does help relax me.
  5. Meditate, i don’t do this personally, but meditation is a widely known way of relaxing, i would recommend just giving it a try!

So these are 5 ways i thought of, that you could relax after a long or hard day. Feel free to comment below if your have your own ways that other people could try!

Also my Q&A requests are still open i’ve only been asked 2 questions so would love some more from you guys!

Sincerely, S x

Ebay finds!

Hello everybody!

I haven’t done a beauty post for a while so i thought i’d do one today and since i purchase two items recently i thought it would be the perfect chance to do a post.

I’ve seen a lot of ebay find videos on youtube and they were quite popular, hopefully you guys enjoy my blog post! I purchased an eye shadow palette and four eye make up brushes, both of the products i am very pleased with. Anyways let’s get talking about them!

Okay, so the first item was this amazing 120 colour eye shadow palette. Now, unfortunately the postman did not read the fragile sign on the parcel and literally chucked the parcel through the letter box making two colours smash 😦 but i fixed them! I got the more neutral toned palette but you can get another, very vibrant version full of all the colours in the rainbow if you wish! This one was only £5.00 which i thought was amazing for the amount of colours you get, the quality is amazing too! All the colours are very pigmented and there’s both matte and shimmery colours! I’m really looking forward to see what looks i can create with this one!

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The other item i got was these beautiful rose gold eye brushes, with white and pink hair. I am in love with these brushes, i love rose gold things and these brushes are just so pretty! And for the cheap price of £1.58 too! i was amazed! They feel good quality too, they’re soft but not too soft, the small one are a bit tougher which is exactly how you’d expect them to be. I really can’t wait to use these to create some pretty eye looks. 

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Hope you guys enjoyed my post, if you want the links comment below and i will send them too you and if you know of any good ebay bargains on make up then feel free to comment the links to me! I’m looking for a set of matte liquid lipsticks next! 

Sincerely, S x

Apologies!!

Hi everyone! I know I’ve been absent lately and I’m really sorry! I promise a review post is coming up but I’ve had a lot of stuff going on that I needed to deal and cope with before I focused on here. 

I really am sorry but thank you all for not leaving!
Sincerely, S x

5 New Beauty Products I’d Like

Hiya! Yes it’s that time of the week again and this week I thought i’d do and sort of wish list of the newer Beauty Products from higher end brands that I’d like to try!

Too Faced Melted Chocolate– I haven’t actually tried the other melted products but from what i have heard they’re brilliant and i think that the chocolate collection coming with some really nice nude shades. There are 3 normal ones and 3 metallic ones. The shades include:

  • Chocolate Cherries (darkest shade)
  • Chocolate Milkshake
  • Chocolate Honey
  • Chocolate Diamonds (Metallic)
  • Frozen Hot Chocolate (Metallic)
  • Candy Bar (Metallic)

They all look lovely and i hope i manage to get my hands on them to do a review post!

These are £16 each and you can find them here https://www.toofaced.com/p/lipsticks/melted-chocolate/

Urban Decay Gwen Stefani Blush Palette- this palette is sooo pretty, and perfect for pale skinned girls as well as any others. Two pink shades and four nude shades. I really want to try this one out! This Palette is £35 and can be found at http://www.urbandecay.co.uk/collections/gwen-stefani-collection-2016/gwen-stefani-blush-palette

Tartelette in Bloom eyeshadow palette- oh my goodness, i need this palette, the colours are so me and i think they would work well with each other. Anyone could make some gorgeous looks with this! This palette is £33 and you can buy it here http://www.urbandecay.co.uk/collections/gwen-stefani-collection-2016/gwen-stefani-blush-palette

Too Faced Peanut butter and Jelly– Unfortunately this palette hasn’t come out yet(in the UK) but it looks great and has such nice, pigmented colours, definitely going to be great to play with if i ever manage to buy it! In the Uk this will be out on the 28th of February and is £23. You can check it out at https://www.toofaced.com/p/eye-shadow-palettes/peanut-butter-and-jelly-eye-shadow-collection/tf-inside

Finally The Gwen Stafani Eye Shadow palette from Urban Decay- this is my favourite product out of all the ones i’ve spoken about, i love the colours you could do so much with both the light and the dark shades. I also really like the different colours like the blue,gold and purple..they could be fun to play with! I think i will definitely try and get a hold of this soon so i can show you guys my opinion!

This one is £40 and can be found here – http://www.urbandecay.co.uk/collections/gwen-stefani-collection-2016/gwen-stefani-eyeshadow-palette

So these were the 5 products i’m really wanting at the moment, if you have any of them comment what you think of them! Hopefully i’ve giving you guys some beauty shopping influence!

Sincerely, S x

 

PLEASE NOTE: NONE OF THESE PHOTOS ARE MINE AS I OWN NONE OF THE PRODUCTS

 

 

 

Blog Goals // 2016

Before NYE I was thinking about my general resolutions and goals for the new year. It made me think about what I wanted for my blog too because you’ve got to have plans right? Otherwise there’s no point in doing it. I’ve seen a few people do a blog goals post so I thought I’d share mine with you!

My main goal is to reach a wider audience, this isn’t for any fame reasons just purely because I’ve always wanted to have a wide range of people who I comunicate, I love reading the comments that are posted and I love helping people out so the wider the audience the more I can do this!

Another goal would be to make my post as interesting and creative as I can, I want to make sure that people want to read the post rather than seeing and scrolling bye, I want to be able to relate to everyone who reads it. 

I guess I mainly just want to improve all aspects to make it a bigger,more interactive place, I really hope I can do this because my blog means a lot to me!

I also want to know what your blog goals are! Share them below! 

(If you don’t have a blog then share some of your general goals for this year!)

Sincerely, S x

My Christmas haul 2015

Hello everybody! I hope you’ve all had a good Christmas an are excited for the new year! I thought i’d share a few bits that i got for christmas and love, in a mini christmas haul! 

Before i start i just want to make it clear that this is not me trying to brag in any way i just thought i’d do a post showing some of my beauty bits i got as a few people requested it, i do not want to offend anyone!

So first of all I got two Make Up Revolution pallets that i wanted really bad! I got the Give Them Nightmares one and the Smokey one, i haven’t got swatches of them but if you want me to do a swatches and review post the comment below or like! But from what I’ve tried all the colours are very pigmented! Make Up Revolution is a perfect brand for affordable high quality products, definitely worth a look!

As you can probably tell, in the Give Them Night Mares One (above and top right) there are 12 shimmery colours and 6 matte colours, I think this is perfect because it allows you to create some really nice looks! 🙂

I then got some tinted lip glosses from a brand i’ve never heard of but it’s a like a cheaper brand but it still has good quality…if that makes any sense! 

The colours very from red to light pink which are quite nice, they’re quite pigmented in the sense that they’re not sheer, apart from the pale pink which provides a subtle tint..i prefer it that way but some people might not! I was really happy to get these anyway because i’ve been into lip products lately and not i can play with the colours and see what suits me best 😀

I was also given a pack of pencil eye liners from the same brand, there were four in a pack and were all different colours!

From the swatches i took, they seemed good quality, i don’t think i’ll use the goldish one, but i could use the brown  one as an eyebrow pencil instead! This was a good present for me because i always use pencil eye liner and there are constantly running down so i can never have too many!

Finally, it’s not a beauty product but it is to do with beauty, i got an acrylic make up organizer which i was actually already looking into buying but im glad i was given one! I didn’t actually realise how much i needed this until i had it! haha it’s a life saver!Processed with VSCOcam with t1 preset So these are a few of the bits i got for christmas i highly recommend the two palettes! Show me what you guys got! i want to know 😀 

Until next time!

Sincerely, S x