Paperless Post Collab!

Hello everyone, with my birthday coming up I thought I’d use this time to do another collaboration with Paperless post and show just how easy using the site is! With family all over the place, using the paperless post system makes inviting everyone so much easier.

So I designed some save the dates for my 21st birthday party, in just a few simple steps. First you pick the type of post you want to send, from invitations to flyers, then the template/design you want. Then you’ll want to change the envelope style (of course this is only a virtual envelope that opens when the recipient clicks)

Now you’ll want to edit the details, the style of this will depend on the type of post you decide to do, because I chose a save the date, it requires info on the event such as name, place and time. And then finally the email addresses of the recipient, I’ve used my own address as an example so I’m not showing my family’s details but hopefully you get the gist 🙂

See! It really is all that simple, the only catch it that it’s not free…you’ll need to buy coins with your pennies, to spend on the post, but don’t worry if you’re only sending a few you won’t need many coins!

All you need to do it go to https://www.paperlesspost.com and you’re on your way!

Sincerely, S x

don’t forget to check out my channel for videos coming soon Sophs Channel

and my twitter @_omgsxph

Grief

Hey there, I know its been a hella long time, mainly because i WAS planning on starting up youtube, but then my stupid low self-esteem and life got in the way. I still plan to start-up my channel and will be doing so in the next few weeks but for now, here’s a little post of grief.

My nan passed on April 26th this year, completely sudden, no illnesses, no reason to prepare ourselves, nothing. Anyone who knows me, knows that my nan was my absolute idol, I adored her. I was closer to her than anyone else in my family and i loved her so so so dearly. When i found out she had passed i was actually really ill, I’d lost my voice. But boy did i find it again, screaming, crying, trying to comfort my mum down the phone. The worst time of my life so far, easily. I was even the one who had to break it to my brother, who was actually nearly the one who found her dead. Anyone who has lost a close one knows how hard it really is, and of course everyone deals with it differently.

For me, I couldn’t cope, i couldn’t function. Non stop crying and sinking into the worst place i could be mentally but at the same time wanted to stand strong because of my mum and my younger sister. For my brother it meant seeming fine, but taking anger out on things when he was away from us (he’s autistic and has adhd) so the first thing i want to say about grieving is that just because someone seems ok, it really doesn’t mean that they are. I wanted to be around my family for about a week, only left their house to go home and sleep and then i was straight back in the morning, helping plan, helping out where i can. Crying every time i was home.

To cope with these heavy emotions I decided to focus on my uni deadline which was a week after i found out, because she’d want me to do well, i then came up with a summer project to keep myself busy and so i started to paint. I never painted properly before, hated it in school but i found these relatively good skills as i started top paint her favourite bird, Puffins. Keeping my mind busy helped but it didn’t stop the overwhelming tears that came when night fell. I think the best advice i could give to someone who’s grieving is to just accept it, accept your feelings, let it out because if you bottle it up it’ll only build and build and then come out in a bad wave later on in life. Talk to people, tell them how you feel, they will validate your feelings and make sure you know it’s ok to feel how you do, stay away from people who don’t do this.

I also designed the funeral order of service for her and for people to take home and keep, this made me feel better because I felt like i was doing one last good thing for her.

There are so many resources and sites you can use as well, there’s always someone there to help with your grieving, reach out. Lastly, don’t let people tell you how to deal with it, not everyone can work through it, not everyone heals by keeping busy, some people need time to let it sink in and heal. Do whats best for you.

-S x

Let’s Talk about Body dysmorphia

Hi guys, ive chosen to write about this topic because its something that’s really pressing on my at the moment and I’m really struggling with it.

So, if you didn’t know, body dysmorphia is a mental illness that makes a person spend most of their time worrying about any flaws in their appearance, most commonly their weight.  People with this condition will spend lengths of time in front of the mirror picking at themselves, comparing themselves to others, putting a lot of effort into hiding said ‘flaws’ like wearing baggy clothes or lots of makeup. BD is also commonly linked to depression and in extreme cases self harm and/or suicide.

For me, I spend a LOT of time worrying about my weight, some days I’ll wake up feeling super toned and skinny…which i definitely am not, and others i feel incredibly large. Much larger than i wish to be. This makes my day-to-day life so hard because i spend the whole time worrying about what i look like to other people, and when im not worrying about that i just generally don’t feel comfortable in my own skin. I feel disgusting. I also have depression and anxiety amongst others but these 3 do not mix well together. Another major issue is that i find myself getting so angry and upset with the people close to me because i dont see myself the way they do so to me, they’re all lying. It’s a struggle.

But I just basically wanted to say that BD is real, and people well and truly struggle with it but that’s okay, you can get help!

I’m also always here to talk to anyone that needs to just express themselves.

Stay Strong everyone!!

sIncerely,

S x

The JonBenet Case: Final Part

Todays post is a wrap up on the JonBenet case that I’ve been posting about. This case intrigues me so much because no one was found guilty and no one knows exactly what happened to this poor little girl. She really deserves justice and I cant even begin to imagine what she went through that night.

But anyways, lets jump back into the last little parts of the investigation.

So, in 2003 investigators took a sample of DNA from a blood mark on JonBenét’s underwear. The tests showed that the DNA belongs to an unknown male. The DNA was submitted to the FBI’s CODIS system, this contains DNA from convicted felons and sex offenders, however its still yet to be matched.

Sadly on June 24 in 2006 about 10 years after JonBenét’s death, Patsy Ramsey died after a long battle with ovarian cancer

This is where i was shook because originally i thought it HAD to be one of the family members, all the evidence pointed that way however…

In 2008, the Boulder District Attorney’s office announced that in the recent developments in DNA technology, the Ramsey family is no longer considered to be involved in the murder of JonBenĂ©t Ramsey. The District Attorney also wrote a letter to John Ramsey, apologizing for the public trial and torment that had occur in the aftermath of his daughter’s Death

THEN in October of 2016 the DNA sample from JonBenét’s underwear was retested and came back as not just one, but two unidentified people. So now the case, which is still unsolved remember, has been complicated even more!

This case is honestly crazy and they only people who truly know what happened are poor JonBenet Ramsey and the horrible, horrible person who did this to her. I hope one day they find out who did it.

Until next time guys,

SIncerely,

-S x

MASSIVE Haul!! Makeup, clothes & More

So does anyone ever tell themselves that they’ll get something done and literally never get round to doing it? because that is pretty much what this haul is, a mixture of times when ive shopped and christmas presents all put into one massive haul because i simply put it off for too long.

don’t worry though, the last part of the JonBenet case will come soon.

My order from M.A.C was actually my first ever, i know right?! crazy. I actually spoke to an online MUA on their website, she was super helpful, i asked for product that are good for people with dry skin because i always struggle to find foundations that don’t show all your dry patches and she also recommended me a primer and moisturizer. I took the plunge and bought everything she recommended and i actually really love it all, however i feel like I’m a shade down from the one she suggested but that’s not the end of the world. So i got the Studio Fix Fluid SPF 15 foundation in the shade NW15, the studio moisture cream and the Prep + Prime Skin base Visage. i think i need to order the fix+ next!

Then from BeautyBay I ordered some bits in the sale they had on, I picked up a Jeffree Star liquid lipstick in the shade ‘Leo’ because that’s my star sign and its also almost my perfect nude brown shade, i love it. I also picked up the RCMA no colour setting powder, if seen so many people rave about this so i really wanted to try it for myself. On the boring side i wanted to try a new eyeshadow primer because i usually always use my Makeup Revolution one, so i picked the wet n wild long-lasting eyeshadow primer. And finally i chose theBalm’s Anti Orange bronzer in the shade ‘Oliver’ and some ABH mini matte lipsticks, i actually love the bronzer its such a good shade for my skin and also isn’t crazy pigmented that it messes your makeup up, and the lipstick feel so nice on the lips, not drying at all.

Now, this week I took a little trip to Bluewater shopping centre in London for some retail therapy and i did manage to spoil myself. *THIS IS NOT A BRAGGING POST I AM SIMPLE SHARING THINGS THAT I HAVE BECAUSE I KNOW PEOPLE LIKE TO SEE THESE TYPES OF POST, INCLUDING MYSELF* I went into a LOT of shops and i mean a lot, my feet were so sore but it was worth it. They main thing i treated myself to was a Michael Kors bag, I’ve genuinely wanted one for so long so it felt good to be able to treat myself to it finally. PLUS they had a sale on so i got it a lot cheaper. The bag i chose was a smallish shoulder bag called ‘Selma’ in black. In boots i only picked up a few bits, a new lip plumper from soap and glory because mine was running low, i get the clear one, the Honey primer from NYX (tried this today and loved it) the NYX ‘Can’t Stop Wont Stop’ foundation  (again, tried it today and loved it) and a pencil eyeliner from NYX.

I was SO excited when I found out Bluewater had a Too Faced shop, so of course i went in there, i wanted most of the shop but managed to contain myself and only purchased a few things; the Better Than Sex mascara, White Peach eye palette and a melted matte lipstick in ‘Evil Twin’, I cant wait to try them out. As much as i hate going into Lush because of how they always want to talk to you and i have bad anxiety,  i really wanted to new bath and body bits so i went in and got two baths bombs; ‘Peachy’ and ‘Turtle Jelly’ and also the ‘Rose Jam’ shower gel and the shower scrub in ‘scrub scrub scrub’ which is a black scrub with charcoal etc in. Hopefully they do my skin wonders.

Victorias secret and their Pink store both had a 5 for ÂŁ25 sale on their pants so i picked up some of those and i also found these jogger style lounge pants that were so incredibly soft that i HAD to try them. (see photo of gray and white trousers with rose on). I also went into new look to get a Teddy coat that i had been eyeing up for a while, i love it!

Last but not least, from the london trip, I went into paperchase. I have an obsession with buying notebooks to of course i picked up two and i also found some cool feminism badges and pins so picked those up as well.

Now finally for the christmas pressies, I was a little spoilt by various people around me, my boyfriend got me the Jeffree Star Liquid lipstick nudes 2 vault which i was SHOOK at, he also got me the beauty bay brushes, their Going Out palette and a graphics tablet! My mum then got me the Makeup Revolution  gift box set which had so many goodies in, im in love, a mug, some smellies for the shower, MORE makeup brushes and the newest Soph X Makeup Revolution  palette. I also got new GHDs from my boyfriends mum, i really did not expect to unwrap them and honestly almost cried!

SO that’s my big haul everyone, hope you all enjoyed it, let me know if you want reviews on anything!

P.S sorry it’s so long! I underestimated how much their was until i typed it up haha!

Sincerely,

-S x

The Jonbenet Case: Part 2

Hi guys I’m back with the second part of The Jonbenet Ramsey case, I really misinterpreted how much there was to cover last time! So for anyone who missed it because the post kinda flopped in views and likes, we covered the first main parts. Those being the letter, the phone call and the autopsy.

So for today we are going to start of with some other key evidence that the investigators found. Investigators found several other key pieces of evidence at the surrounding crime scene. Firstly the police report stated there were several open windows and at least one open door in the house that night, this would have made it incredibly easier for a potential intruder to get in. There was also a broken window in the basement that could not be properly closed. This is one of the most likely points of entry to what would become the crime scene. However, knowledge of this broken window was not made available until a year after the murder, probably due to the fact every believed that the Ramsey’s were the perpetrators and didn’t need to gain entry into their own home. I also remember them saying in the documentary that in the window was an untouched cobweb, which of course would not have still be intact if an adult had gone through the window, especially considering the size of the window and the very few amount of possible ways to fit through (non of which wouldn’t have disturbed the cobweb.

It has also been shared that the house was covered in thick carpets, therefore making it easier for a possible intruder to enter and leave quietly without waking the household.

Next, the autopsy showed that Jonbenet had pieces of pineapple in her digestive system at her time of death but the Ramseys claim to never have given her any. On the contrary Burke’s fingerprints were found on a bowl in the kitchen which, yep you guessed it, had pineapple in. Though the , Ramseys argued that Burke was ‘asleep’ during the event of the kidnap/murder. The massive difference between the Ramseys statements and the evidence provides more doubts that they innocent (if you hadn’t guessed already, my bet is and always has been on the brother) Two main theories at this point were that the Ramseys committed the crime themselves or that they staged the whole kidnapping situation to cover up and protect their son. Police also found a broken paintbrush in the basement’s boiler room,the other piece of the paintbrush was used to create the garrote. pieces of broken glass and scuff marks  were found around the broken window in basement. There are fingerprints, hand-prints, and a boot print that have still not been identified as a match to the Ramseys or any of the over 400 people who have been investigated, leaving the intruder theory open.

Thirdly, investigators have said that they believe JonBenet knew her killer so trusted them enough to leave her bedroom, possibly lured out with the promise of pineapple. This is understandable as it’s a common factor in child abduction cases, in most cases the child does know the person or they trust them because they’re a public safety figure like policemen or teachers or bus drivers etc. It’s also a known fact that the Ramseys enjoyed throwing parties and as it was the holidays season there would’ve been plenty of them with many friends and family that Jonbenet would’ve known and trusted.  The killer could have potentially been any one of them. Despite this, the three immediate family members remained the focus but were never named as suspects to the public. All three of them were questioned by investigators, and had to submit handwriting samples to compared to the ransom note. Both John and Burke were cleared of suspicion of writing the note, but Patsy could not be cleared.

The case slowly began running cold, the Ramseys made countless media appearances to try to clear their names of the crime. multiple grand jury’s were held but none of them lead to any charges being made, however in 2013 some court documents were pulled forward that showed back in 1999 the Grand Jury had actually voted to charge Jonbenets parents for child abuse that resulted in her death but the district attorney refused to sign the paperwork, claiming there was a lack of sufficient evidence. As the case grew colder,investigators were slowly assigned new cases whilst the paperwork was moved into storage. The District Attorney’s office then announced that they had run out of the $500,000 that they were given to solve the case, stating they would not be reapplying for more.

I’m going to make this a 3 parter so I’ll upload the last few bits the week coming. Whats your opinion so far? If you’re interested in this case you should watch the JonBenet case documentary that BBC did, I believe it’s on YouTube, there’s also a ‘Casting JonBenet’ on Netflix i believe.

 

-S x